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Whenever I wear Lolita I experience both positive and negative reactions to the fashion. Whilst I am secretly thrilled when people want to take my photo and when I get compliments, I am fully aware that at some point I will come across people who dislike what I do.
I think Western lolitas have a much harder time than Japanese lolitas. Whilst Japanese lolitas will also get criticised, the Lolita fashion is more widely known. In the Western world most people would be able to identify a goth or emo but probably not a Lolita. Sadly we live in a world where we lash out at the unfamiliar. As a result, I have come across people who will attack me simply because I don’t blend in with the crowd.
And yet I still wear the frilly dresses I crave so much.
An example of one of these occasions was when I was taking photographs in a park. My friend was taking photos of me whilst my other friends watched on. What they didn’t see was there was a little kid running up to me behind them. The mother looked absolutely horrified and dragged the child away as quickly as she could. I continued to smile for the camera, whilst my friends remained oblivious to the woman behind them. I overheard somebody commenting that I could be a part of the sex industry and to stay away. I was wearing sweet Lolita at the time.
I felt incredibly embarrassed. I knew that if I was able to explain about the fashion, then their reactions would probably be very different. It is almost as if people are afraid of the unknown. They did not understand what I was doing and so they came to conclusions based on the world that they know. Which is why instead of seeing a sweet Lolita, they saw an age-play fetishist posing for some photos. It probably doesn’t help that when you say the word Lolita, some people will immediately think of the book with the same name!
Once I had moved on I was able to laugh at the incident. It was relatively funny compared to how things could have turned out.
Before I was in to Lolita, I used to wear punk fashion every single day. As a whole, most of the negativity was harmless. It was mainly people shouting out “hilarious” comments. My form tutor used to sing “These Boots Were Made For Walking” every time I wore my New Rocks with the red flames painted on the side. Afterwards I would just carry on. However, there were a few times where I got a little scared by how far people would go to try to upset me.
I live in a town which by English standards is pretty average. We have our problems just like everywhere else. One of the main issues is this whole yob culture and pettish thuggery. People will attack total strangers. Despite wearing very casual clothing I became a victim last Saturday. I was walking through a car park to get home because it is the quickest way home. It is a gathering point for young people enticed by the glamorised gang culture on TV. Their current favourite hobby is fireworks. So as I walked past they threw a lit firework at me. They were not even the slightest bit concerned that they could have hit me. In fact, they were laughing. The firework landed just a metre away from me and as it went off the sparks flared out. I was very lucky that none of the sparks caught me. We have since reported this incident to the police but have had no response.
To get in to town and to the train station I have to go through this car park or it will add a lot of time on to my journey. I can’t drive and I can hardly ask people to ferry me around. I often wonder how they would react to my Lolita. There are times when it is best to keep your head down. So far I have been very lucky with my timing and there have been hardly any people out and about. I am not in the slightest bit ashamed of wearing Lolita but my safety is being compromised.
And this is why I would never hold a Lolita meet in my home town. The lack of safety. I can cope with people pointing and staring but my neighbourhood makes it hard to just go out and do whatever I want. All the meets I have attended have been in other nearby towns or in London, never here. I admire girls who post on Daily Lolita and say they have been to the shops or that they go to work in Lolita. It is great that they have this freedom. If I wasn’t so worried about the youths in my area I would wear Lolita everywhere.
I will never be forced to give up Lolita. If I did give it up, it would be my decision and nobody else will have a say in the matter. But I cannot stress how important it is not to compromise your safety. I usually get my husband to escort me whilst I am in Lolita. A lot of the time he even comes to meets with me providing the others don’t mind.
There are a lot of things I want to say but I have decided to give a very heavily edited version of events. I am not suggesting in any way that by dressing in Lolita you will get attacked. But due to past experiences, both in and out of Lolita, I don’t think I will ever let my guard down. Lolita is a bold and daring fashion and I admire so many of you. And please don’t be put off Lolita because for every bad experience I have had, I have had about 10 people telling me how wonderful they think I look.
Monday, 14 February 2011
1. Dry Shampoo- I have been using dry shampoo for a couple of years now. It is very useful for when you don’t have time to properly wash your hair. Also, hair is usually easier to style when it has not been freshly washed and dry shampoo helps to make unwashed hair look less greasy but still a little bit easier to style. I find it is useful for when you want to do big hairstyles and it also adds a texture for messier styles. If you purchase a wig and think it looks too shiny then you could also use dry shampoo to give the wig a more matte appearance. Dry shampoo comes in different forms such as a powdery spray or mist. My advice would be to avoid powdery dry shampoo if you have dark hair. If you have dark hair then powdery dry shampoo can make it look like you have a flaky scalp. Some dry shampoos have been made especially for darker hair so shop around to see what you find. I use Batiste dry shampoo because it comes in a variety of nice scents.
2. Clear nail polish- clear nail polish is great for finishing off your nails and give a subtle glossy appearance. But it can also be used to temporarily repair ladders in tights. I would also use it on shoes which have a glossy finish. Shoes get scuffed and the shine goes so I would clean the area and add some clear nail polish so it looks less noticeable.
3. Sock glue- this is a product I am yet to try but I have seen it on some websites such as jbox.com and in some clothes stores. As much as I love over the knee socks, they can fall down very quickly and you don’t always want to wear tights either. According to reports, sock glue can help combat this problem. It could just be a gimmick but it might be worth a try. The alternative is to use lingerie such as suspender belts. They should be hidden away so nobody would need to know!
4. A Nude bra- a lot of people don’t seem to think about their underwear when wearing Lolita which is fine if you are not intending to take lots of photos. When using the flash on a camera, underwear can show if you are not wearing the correct colour. White bras can look luminous under black clothing and coloured bras show under white clothing. Even white bras could show up under a white blouse. The easiest way to avoid these problems is to buy a nude coloured bra which shouldn’t show up. Nude does not have to mean boring or old and if you have a look around it is possible to find a cute nude bra. Another good idea is to always double check you are wearing the correct bra size. Wearing the wrong size can give a lumpy appearance which does not do any favours for your silhouette even when you are wearing many layers.
5. Stickers- I have noticed a lot of people have been using stickers, especially for sweet and OTT sweet styles. I have a lot of admiration for Lolita sticker lovers. There is nothing particularly special about stickers but how you use them can make a huge impact. You can stick them pretty much anywhere you like so the only limit is your imagination. Face, hair (be careful if you stick these on your hair!), nails, on your clothes, accessories... the possibilities are endless. If you have a big sheet of stickers it can be fun to decorate letters or make some Lolita calling cards with stickers on them. You could put the same sticker next to your signature each time and people will instantly recognise you!
There are lots of other really useful items out there so someday I may extend this post!