A Very Tough Day To Be A Lolita

I wasn't going to write about this but... it feels like this is an issue close to many a lolita's heart. I am of course, referring to upcoming documentary "Are All Men Pedophiles?"; a documentary which features a section about Japanese culture.

One of the things that has caused a lot of upset is that one of the posters features a lolita (or a model wearing lolita) wearing Angelic Pretty.

Although the documentary is apparently going to tackle both sides of the pedophilia debate, I can't help but feel this documentary could have negative consequences on the lolita community.

I find it difficult to put in to words how annoyed I am by this documentary. I feel the comments left on this online petition sum up my feelings really well-

http://www.change.org/petitions/jw-productions-and-director-jan-willem-breure-remove-the-promotional-poster-for-the-film-and-write-a-public-apology

Director Jan Willem Breure does not seem concerned about this upset this is causing. After being emailed, this was the response one girl got-

"The documentary does not offend Lolita nor does it compare it to pedophilia. Wild assumptions about what pedophilia is or isn't is why the documentary was made in the first place. The reason why we choose Lolita is because in the film we do a section about Japanese culture."

Well, I disagree. I know there are many lolitas who ARE offended by this documentary. And although it may not "compare it to pedophilia", to include lolita in such a documentary is harmful. Do we really want to be associated with this? 

There is probably not a lot we can do but if you feel strongly about this, then please do sign the petition in the link above. Voice your complaints as loud as possible and maybe people will realise that not everybody agrees with the director.

I am sorry if people disagree with me or this post. It just pains me that people might make assumptions after watching it. Yes, I am aware I may be being hypocritical by making this post before seeing the doc, but I reserve the right to voice my concern. I am just hoping this all blows over.

June Ox Loli meet- London!

Last Saturday was the latest Oxfordshire Lolita meet. It is now Monday and I STILL feel tired and achy. However, there is a good reason why I feel so worn out. This time the Oxford Lolis went to London! I have always been passionate about London. No matter how often I go, I still get the same buzz of excitement. I think it is impossible to get bored in London. Also, it was nice to move away from Oxford this time.

I did not get very many photos this time. We were joined by a photographer because the group is contributing to a documentary being filmed by this lovely man called Francesco. Initially, we were just meant to be doing a photoshoot with Fleur (Who I absolutely adore. She made me feel pretty!). The group went to Green Park. We found some lovely flowers to pose with. Fleur got a lot of photos of us so I did not manage to get very many on my camera. I can't wait to see the pictures Fleur took.

Here I am standing among the flowers! I would call this outfit casual classic. Fleur was also snapping me here, so I have my serious face on! I wore Old Emblem by Meta. I was amazed when I realised I had never worn this skirt to a Ox Loli meet. It is one of my most worn pieces! The rest of the outfit is off-brand but I was wearing some Angelic Pretty rings. I did not give myself enough time to do a more elaborate outfit. I promise you, I did have plans.

I loved posing with the flowers!

Sammi and Beau both wore Angelic Pretty. Sammi looked incredible in her Lyrical Bunny salopette. Salopettes are so hard to pull off well, but Sammi is petite and she looked brilliant. Of course, Beau looks pretty too in Jewelry Jelly! I think Beau made a brilliant choice.

Michelle was also in Angelic Pretty. She was wearing Candy Treat. I know Michelle really wanted Candy Treat so I am so happy that she got it. Michelle wanted an action shot and I simply love this photo. Raine was wearing off-brand. Her brown dress looked amazing on her. I think Raine needs to do classic more often.

I am very very VERY sorry Jenni! This was the only shot I got of you and it is blurry. I thought I had got some shots of you. Jenni was wearing a gorgeous Moitie dress. Jenni pulls off gothic really well.

As you can see from this photo, Francesco managed to come to Green Park. Here he is interviewing Michelle and Jenni. I got paired up with Raine. Sammi and Beau missed out on being interviewed so we are hoping Francesco can come and film us in July. I am organising the July meet so I want to make sure everybody who comes is happy and comfortable. We were a little unprepared for the filming but I was glad we met Francesco. I hope he got some good footage. I really want this documentary to succeed because I think Francesco understands the fashion well and will represent lolitas in a positive way.

We were very busy but I managed to buy this Chocomint necklace in Chinatown. I am so happy I got this despite the high price! I think this necklace is very "me". One day I will make an outfit completely co-ordinated around my blog name!

Although I was tired, I think Saturday went rather well. I am now desperate to go back to London again. I think everybody in our group looked lovely. I have to admit, I felt a little under-dressed next to my friends. Overall, I think this meet was a success!

Big Fat Gypsy Wedding

Here in the UK one of the most discussed TV shows right now is Big Fat Gypsy weddings. It has caused a lot of controversy because it has shown girls as young as 5 gyrating their hips in revealing outfits and there have been questions about whether viewers are tuning in to laugh with or at the gypsies. They definitely live very differently from non-travelers. And don't get me started on the dating business. They do this thing called "the grab" and if a guy grabbed me and forced a kiss on me I would punch him.

But the main draw for me is the gypsy weddings. The girls wear the most ridiculous OTT dresses ever. Seriously, these dresses are HUGE. I can promise you that you have never seen wedding dresses like the ones these girls wear. Think of a Barbie doll but even bigger and more sparkly. One girl even had lights and moving butterflies on her dress. The dress maker took a fire extinguisher with her to make sure she didn't set fire to herself!

It was a cake from this weeks' episode that made me gasp. I think there are some lolitas out there who would love a cake like this-

I can't get over how huge it is! Not only is there the castle in the center, but loads of surrounding cakes, fairy lights and they have used Barbie dolls to represent the bride, groom and bridesmaids. They even used hair curlers to curl the doll's hair so it looked like the girl.

This cake is so gloriously over the top. Some would say this looks a little tacky but I have a real soft spot for this cake. Yes, a lot of viewers are tuning in to gasp at the gypsies, but the TV ratings speak for themselves. They were saying this is the most popular documentary this TV channel has ever done. It is guaranteed to leave you speechless.